I think these two are two different feelings altogether, their base may be the same but then like the branches of the same tree they grow up quite differently from each other.
In this piece I am using love as romantic love, usually I use love in its wide meaning.. it envelops all the forms of affection. But here I am talking about the love of mates, spouses and lovers.
We become a little choosier when we are looking for a mate I believe, there are a lot of things which we can easily ignore in others but not in our mates.
For example a lot of persons will accept an extremely poor person in a lot of other relationships but a loved mate or spouse. That poverty can be of look, intelligence, wisdom or style. One person may accept poverty of intelligence in mate while it can be unacceptable to another, this measurement stick varies from person to person. Let’s just take the example of intelligence. A person may live happily with an unintelligent mother, son, friend or relative happily but may not accept an unintelligent person as a spouse or mate. May rather prefer living a bachelor life than committing to an unintelligent person.
I too belong to this category, there are lots of thing which I will happily accept in anyone else but my mate. What is the mystery behind this I wonder!
We can lay our affection on everyone but when it comes to love we become choosy. May be it is the animal side of us, which looks for the best mate possible.
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